tea and muffins

Good morning computer, I am glad you are with me, thank you for the same.

Today morning is a bit different, it is flurrying therefore I assume it is officially winter. I know there are homes and people from the street will be provided warmth and some comfort. But it raises a question: why do some people lose it all? is it because they give up on themselves and feel the need to cared for by someone? It cannot be true, we humans beings like to be independent. No matter what, we do not want to depend on others for everything. Yes, we should all depend upon little cares thrown our way like concerns by friends and family, for motivation to achieve something in our life, making a mark as an excellent professional, a good friend and a great parent etc, or even a beautiful partner or wife in someone`s life. But to be fully provided for by others? How correct is that? Are we allowed to take such liberties? Maybe they go through some exceptional experiences and land up in circumstances beyond their control. Or have sunk into such depths that no matter how much others help, they keep slipping away.

I wonder if I were to buy a cup of tea and muffins for them, how many of them will have the grace to value that gesture and make use of that to raise themselves a bit out of that depth? I mean as in working for that tea and muffin by motivating themselves to get back that home they have lost, or the job they let go of, or the family they forgot to love...?

I also know people are abandoned by their near and dear ones. who is to be blamed? In my opinion, both parties are to be blamed equally. someone who gave too much love and forgot to keep some for self, the other one who took it all and thought there is no need to give back. Can love be measured while giving or taking? I don`t think so, because we want to give it all we have, thinking that it is only me that is capable of giving so much love. And then we run out of it...and then we feel a sense of abandonment, not because people left us, but because we forgot to keep some love for ourselves, we abandoned love first, we did not respect it. Yes it is important to love and respect self, if not there will be no room for self-respect and we will always wait for some kind hearted soul to bring / buy us tea and muffins...

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