Sunday, November 21, 2010
Well, I am back right after posting one. Guess today words and expression want me to stay with them. I shall try as much is possible.
I am expressing about a section of people who live off others and these people are not homeless.
I have seen people live off other people`s emotions for years, depleting themselves as well as others of their energies. There are these social leeches everywhere who do not know how to live off themselves and feel the need to surround themselves with people for material gain as well as emotional gains. Such people are harmful, because they are cheating others all the time. And the sad part is they do not feel the pain, because if they finish living off one person, (by the way, they do not even remember you after they are done with you), they latch on to anyone in the vicinity. There is a name they give this to this pattern of theirs, they call it being social. And it is not just emotions they live off, if they have to pretend they are in love just to get through that patch they will do it. These people do not have loyalty, they do not value relationships, they do not even love themselves. These are people who are scared to look at themselves and understand who they truly are. These are people who are running away from themselves. Introspection is not for themselves, they will preach talks about values, gratitude and all good things. They will even use their bad behavior as examples.
I knew a person who spoke of loyalty, gratitude with lot of passion. This person is an immigrant, he was given a start by someone from back home. Once the business of setting up self was completed, A wanted B totally out of picture. B encountered few problems A was the happiest and heaved a sigh of relief that he will never have to deal with B. When one of the staff was looking for job while still working at his business, A was the first one to give a lecture about gratitude and loyalty!!!!
Maybe these are people who encountered too much love that they lost and forgot to value it. Maybe love to them came in very late and they just do not know how to handle it. Yes, even to handle/respect love and care takes some effort. Effort as in working upon us all the time. We need to look around us and remember to value life and how we can put it to the best use. Our life, all our lives for that matter should be put to use, spreading joy, sticking to values, instilling discipline in ourselves and others. always, always trying to raise the bar of our lives by doing simple things. These things could be a straight forward thing like not lying and being honest with self first followed by others around us. In some weird way it helps us to be independent, not live off others either for money or sponging off emotions. Trust me, we are all self-sufficient.
aar aar
tea and muffins
Today morning is a bit different, it is flurrying therefore I assume it is officially winter. I know there are homes and people from the street will be provided warmth and some comfort. But it raises a question: why do some people lose it all? is it because they give up on themselves and feel the need to cared for by someone? It cannot be true, we humans beings like to be independent. No matter what, we do not want to depend on others for everything. Yes, we should all depend upon little cares thrown our way like concerns by friends and family, for motivation to achieve something in our life, making a mark as an excellent professional, a good friend and a great parent etc, or even a beautiful partner or wife in someone`s life. But to be fully provided for by others? How correct is that? Are we allowed to take such liberties? Maybe they go through some exceptional experiences and land up in circumstances beyond their control. Or have sunk into such depths that no matter how much others help, they keep slipping away.
I wonder if I were to buy a cup of tea and muffins for them, how many of them will have the grace to value that gesture and make use of that to raise themselves a bit out of that depth? I mean as in working for that tea and muffin by motivating themselves to get back that home they have lost, or the job they let go of, or the family they forgot to love...?
I also know people are abandoned by their near and dear ones. who is to be blamed? In my opinion, both parties are to be blamed equally. someone who gave too much love and forgot to keep some for self, the other one who took it all and thought there is no need to give back. Can love be measured while giving or taking? I don`t think so, because we want to give it all we have, thinking that it is only me that is capable of giving so much love. And then we run out of it...and then we feel a sense of abandonment, not because people left us, but because we forgot to keep some love for ourselves, we abandoned love first, we did not respect it. Yes it is important to love and respect self, if not there will be no room for self-respect and we will always wait for some kind hearted soul to bring / buy us tea and muffins...
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